At at loss as to what to do. This feels bad, we feel bad. The man is crying, and his blood pressure is up....and he is not eating. Trying to stay strong, but feel so bad for him. "The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and although we repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated. our perceptions confused and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth".
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well, my first thought is be careful, consciously or unconsciously he may be trying to manipulate you. to get you to change your mind and stay with him out of pity. and if you truly want to leave and think that this is in your best interests, than it wouldn't be good for *either of you* for you to stay. we all deserve to be with people who truly want to be with us. we all deserve to be happy. you can be there for him and feel compassion and still do what you feel you need to do for yourself. your compassion shows what a kind soul you are. i'm sorry this is so hard. ((safe hugs))
one more thing, one or both of you may be struggling with some codependency right now. him expecting you to change your mind to "rescue" him and take care of him. you might be considering going against your instincts and feelings about what you need to do for your own happiness in order to "make him feel better" - but we are each responsible for our own happiness. he is responsible for his own. it's not your fault he is reacting this way. he is entitled to his grief. it doesn't mean you have to "fix it". he could also be taking care of himself and wishing you well, understanding your position instead of feeling sorry for himself. that's his choice.
you are a good person. don't worry about that. it's not cruel to leave. if you're truly unhappy, then this is what's best for both of you. even if he doesn't realize that.
I am sorry for you, not feeling good with this situation.
I think Mountainmama gives good advise.
Safe hugs and blessings,
Barbra
When I first read this the other day, I wanted to let it sink in....before responding. Coming back, I see that mountainmama said pretty much what I wanted to relay. I thought too that there was some 'back-peddling' going on all of a sudden. Maybe reality kicked in for him. Definitly fear!!
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