Tuesday, July 28, 2009

ummm wrong thing.....


we must hv led people to the wrong ummm thing...cuz...the charges r not dismised...yet...we hv bench trial on August 21...then we see what happens. we do ok. sometimes we cry...but we laugh a lot more now to...we go walking outside in fresh air...we miss our doggie so much. want to thank everyone for prayers and writing here...we hv so many friends...we love you. that's all...nite.....

"The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and although we repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated. our perceptions confused and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth".

Monday, July 27, 2009

"First Hearing and Results"

Hi everyone! The pre-trial hearing was last Friday. "he" was not there...thank goodness. My Attorney met with the Prosecuting Attorney, while I waited in the court room. When she came out, she was smiling....so I finally started breathing again. She told me the Prosecuting Attorney said charges should not have been brought against me and I should not have been arrested...he added....this is "Bullshit"! However, since I have been charged, we must have a Bench Trial, in which the Prosecuting Attorney will present the evidence (oh yeah...no photos of the alleged scratches...isn't that convenient?), which consists of 2 small paragraphs. Then my Attorney will present my case of innocence and the Judge will decided my punishment. I could get probation and/or a fine, or the charges could be dismissed without any restrictions. If I get probation, then I will have to ask the Judge for permission to move to Texas. Also, if "he" was unable to get the house refinanced and my name taken off...we will have to have the house appraised and sold immediately......or just let it go into foreclosure. I prefer the latter, because right now, it could not be sold for what we owe...and that would mean the debt would be divided between us. The Bench Trial is set for August 21st.

I have 2 hearings set for August 7th. One to set aside the Protection Order and the other is to terminate my obligation to pay any part of the mortgage and household bills, since I am no longer living there....and I can not afford to do so.

I miss my Scarlett so very much. Once the Protection Order is set aside, I can go to see her, but I have asked my Attorney to petition the court to not allow "him" to be at the house when I go to see Scarlett and start packing my personal belongings. I will be unable to provide a place for Scarlett to live until I am ready to move to Texas....which causes me to feel so sad. My Mother said she would keep her for me until I am ready to move. If I can manage to get her to my Mom's, that is exactly what I will do!

So, know that I am "safe". Know that I appreciate all the prayers and well wishes from all of you!

Sueann..



"The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and although we repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated. our perceptions confused and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting unless we stop evading the truth".

Saturday, July 18, 2009

"NOT BELIEVED........ONCE AGAIN"

we decided the best thing to do is to tell what happened....not telling is just another secret, at a different time in our life...but a secret, just the same.

the first sunday of this month, we were taken to jail, for alledgedly attacking and abusing the "man that lives in our house". we had gone to the computer to pay bills on-line and learned he had taken a large sum of money out of our checking account, leaving next to nothin to pay the bills. when questioned why he would do such a thing, he answered that he wanted to buy a computer so he could "keep track of things". we became upset, stating that now there was no money to pay the bills. he began mocking us, repeating everything we said. inside everyone was fearful of him. he said he would never give us a divorce and that we would never leave the state. he also said we belonged in a hospital.....now tht scared us. we called the police. while we were on the phone with the police, he heard us, and he also called the police. when they arrived, i told the officer we were afraid of him, because we did not know him and did not know what he may do to us. 2 other officers took him out of the house into the back yard. when one of those officers returned, he said the "man's" story was completely different from ours. the man said we assaulted him and that he had scratches on his arm. they then put me in handcuffs. we kept saying over and over we did not do anything to him. they did not believe us! they would not let us say anything! they threw us in the police car and took us to jail...it was so horrible. we spent 3 days in a small space, having the same 2 meals a day, which we could not eat, because we gagged. we cried all the time. we ask for our medication, we finally got them on the 2nd day. they took our shoes away from us, we could not wash. we were scared. finally rocking girl, sat with us all night, every night and just rocked. everyone who had come in after us, were taken before the judge, but not us.....we kept asking why....they would not tell us anything. we had no one to call, we could not remember anyone's number but our sister and our parents. on the 2nd day we called our sister and told her what happened. then we learned our mother had been taken to the hospital in an abulance and was very ill. our sister asked if we wanted her and brother to come to us. we did not want to make problems for them..we said we don't know. so sister and brother left at 430 in the morning on the 3rd day of jail. they drove 6 hours to come to us. they were there when we finally saw the judge and was released.
that is what happened to us. now we are charged with domestic assault and we have to go this coming friday back to court. we got attorney, and she is great and feels the charges will be dropped. we are still having nightmares, we can not sleep through the night. we keep remembering that no one would let us talk, no one wouled believe us, just as always....we did NOT hurt him....we would never hurt anyone....why won't anyone believe us????????

we miss our dog so much. the "man" has her, along with all of our stuff. we have some clothes but we need our dog and our stuff. the "man" was not who we thought he was, he is a bad, bad person, who lies. he filed for the divorce while we were in jail. he filed an order that does not allow us near him, our home or our dog. we did feel sorry for him, but now we don't. we cry all the time...like we are doing at this moment. we stay with friends, good friends we have known long time. we feel "safe" but scared all the time. if you pray, please add us.

"us"










"The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and although we repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated. our perceptions confused and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth".

Thursday, July 16, 2009

"A DIFFERENT REALITY"

Hello my friends. I have missed you! Thank you all for the wonderful people you are!

I have been through an ordeal, unlike any I have encountered before. It has forced me to face a different reality, one of sadness, unpredictability and even horror. I won't go into the details, because I have yet to come to a point where I can actually write them. I will tell you this, much good has evolved from this experience. My Sister and my Brother drove 6 hours to rescue me. The bond between us is now solid. The Sister, I thought I had lost forever, held me in her arms as I cried and trembled from fear. My Brother, well, he and I have always had a close bond, but this experience has brought us even closer. I thank My God, for both of them.

I want to say a very special and loving Thank You to Steve E. and Prayer Girl, for loving me unconditionally, for their concern and their friendship. You are both awesome people, and we love you.

To my dear Doc, if you are reading this, know that I thank you for the year of revelation and healing I spent with you. I hope to return to "T" in the future but at this point I have no Health Insurance and can not. We miss you terribly and call you our friend and healer. Please know that we are doing okay and that we are "safe".

With Gratitude and Love,
"Us"

"The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and although we repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated. our perceptions confused and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth".

Saturday, July 4, 2009

"HAPPY 4TH OF JULY"

I love my freedom. I love my America. God Bless the men and woman who are, and who have, fought to keep or Nation free....you are my Heroes!






"The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and although we repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated. our perceptions confused and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth".

Friday, July 3, 2009

"Tired AND Can Not Sleep"


The depression, I have been trying so hard to keep at bay, has completely wrapped it's debilitating arms around me.

I finally allowed myself to cry, after my Brother and his family left this morning. Everything is just so over-whelming. Planning a new life is difficult. At times, I fall back, and wonder am I doing the right thing by leaving him? It would be so easy just to stay and live as we are. My list of things that must be done, grows with each passing day. I don't know if I have the strength. I don't know if I can hurt someone this badly. He is so down and crying all the time. He is determined that we can work this out and stay together. He does not hear me when I tell him I do not love him! He does not hear me when I say I am leaving you, that our marriage is over! I feel guilt for causing another being to feel such pain. All my life, I have been hurt by others. All my life I have endured that pain. This does not feel "right", my causing the pain to another.

I can not sleep. I am afraid to sleep....though he has not become violent at all. Every time I turn, he is there, behind me, beside me, talking, telling me he loves me, that no, he will not let me leave him, that all we need to do is talk it through and find a way to stay together. I feel sorrow and I feel I am the bad person in this situation. I have always tried and I believe succeeded in not hurting people in my life. I know the pain of rejection, of being unloved and unwanted. I know that is what he is feeling.

I see Doc on Monday. He will help me sort these feelings, and to see them in the right perspective. Until then, I will deal with it alone, all the time wondering....am I a bad person?

Sueann~

"The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and although we repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated. our perceptions confused and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth".

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

"Don't Know What To Do

At at loss as to what to do. This feels bad, we feel bad. The man is crying, and his blood pressure is up....and he is not eating. Trying to stay strong, but feel so bad for him.






"The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and although we repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated. our perceptions confused and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth".

"We Talked"

We talked, with the man who lives here. We had no choice, he brought it up. So now, each knows where the other stands. I want a divorce and he does not. He is going to try to get re-mortgage on the house and keep it. Our so hoped for plan is not even an opition....him leaving, moving out, we stay here, continue to pay the house payment, but putting it up for sale. So plan B. We will divide the furshings, and well everything. I begin packing on Thursday. I will store my furniture here and just take what I need to feel safe and comfortable. It will be difficult with him here..but we will keep in our minds, that we will be free of this loveless, non-emotional, no cummnication, no empathy, no real emotions broken marriage. We will leave for Texas, when all is settled. We must get a consult with an Attorney to learn how to handle the divorce.

We have made the decision to move back to the Dallas/Ft. Worth area instead of moving down to Houston. We love our cousin, like a Sister, but she can be controlling. We don't need that. Our best friend and her husband and son live there and we have been invitied to stay there until we can find a place. My friend is so excited that I will be moving back.

We do feel badly for the man, but we must do what will make "us" happy for once in our life. We will remain strong, we will not allow his sorrow cause us to feel guilty. We will be kind to him. We have already told him we never meant to hurt him. But that we just not happy in the marriage.....but alas, he does not understand.

Emma Grace + will say a prayer:

Heavenly Father, look down on the man who lives here and grant him peace of mind, strenghth to over come his sadness and knowledge to understand that we must leave. Oh and acceptance of the parting. We ask this in the name of your son, Jesus.
Amen +

nite from "most of us....the older of us)

"The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and although we repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated. our perceptions confused and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth".